A man who decides to date a single mother will also spend time with her child. This is going to be a problem at some point because he is not the father of the child.
I have noticed that some women wanted the man to help the mother to pay for the expenses related to the child or the children. Those mothers also wanted the father to literally be the new father.
The man is used as a facilitator, a money provider and a servant.
Case study: Man adopts woman’s child
Let me give you an example. I know a French man who went to Africa and married a single mother who already had one child in côte d’Ivoire. This man has decided to adopt the child. He brought back the child and wife to France.
Then, he had two children with his African wife.
Later on, he divorced and he had to pay for childcare support for 3 children since he adopted the child.
The child who was a teen at that time stopped seeing him and wanted to be with the mother all the time.
During the divorce, this teen filmed with her smartphone all the belongings of his former stepfather to evaluate his wealth. After the divorce, the child chose the camp of the mother. The man has to pay for the alimony of the mother and the childcare support for the next 4 years because the oldest child is 14 years old. The youngest ones are 7 years old which means that the father will have to pay child support for 11 years. In France, alimony can’t exceed 5 years. Total damage for now: 950 euros in child support and alimony. 250×3 euros per child + 200 euros to the mother.