On the paper, marriage should be interesting since it provides tax allowances and would allow benefiting from the alleged revenue of the spouse in order to reach higher living standards. Also, in everyday’s life, splitting expenses in two should benefit both spouses. However, this is not what I observed in many cases.
Money
I have observed many couples. Female predators encourage their husband to live beyond what he can afford.
Let me explain. I know some men very well. I knew their personality before they got married. I knew what they liked and what they didn’t like. Once they got married they spent money on products and services that they weren’t interested in. After investigation, I understood those expenses were triggered by their spouse/partner. The house is the first expense of households in the western world. A couple of surveys found that women had the final word about buying a house. The female predators triggered the purchase of overpriced houses or houses that didn’t match with the household revenue.
For example, one of those men was against taking out a mortgage and he just wanted to rent a house. He ended up buying an overpriced house close to the ocean where the price of houses is the highest. He must pay back a mortgage for the next 25 years.
Another one didn’t like water, he ended up with a big swimming pool in his garden with a $25,000 price tag.
Those men live under the influence of their wife or their girlfriend and take out loans and mortgages which influence the men’ lives for many years. Those women generate constraints in the life of those men. By the way, none of those expenses are for the children. They are just pure for a spoiled female predator.
By the way, some men are manipulated. Men think they buy something for themselves but they are just manipulated by their partner. I took the example of the house. Then, there are many purchases that are triggered by the women: swimming pool, customized kitchen, fancy designer furniture, hot tubs, fancy garden, veranda.
On top of that, some women encourage to spend a lot of money on expensive trips.
Limitation of freedom
The marriage propagandists make you believe that getting married has no downsides. Many wives limit the freedom of their partner. For example, I remember a wife who didn’t want his husband to play hockey every Friday evenings. I remember that a wife didn’t want his husband to play music in a band.
I found that this phenomenon was more and more common in the last 20 years. There are many spouses who require much more attention than it was before. Those women don’t tolerate their husband to have personal hobbies.
We also noticed that:
- Some women forbid their husband to see his friends
- He has to justify himself when he goes out on its own
- She does not want him to spend too much time on his hobbies. According to her, the wife should be the priority.
We can see the some predatory wives control the life of their husband.
Stress
Since female predators impose their rules on their husband like a dictator, it generates arguments. There are also arguments that are built out of thin air. When I see that a wife screams after his husband it is not necessary. This generates unsolicited stress. It does not make sense to share your life with someone who will bring stress in your life. In the end, the husband is a masochist if he does not decide to divorce.
Unsolicited work
Some female predators use men as servants. For example, a woman dream about living in an old house that requires a makeover. She wants the man to rebuild the house. If she wants a new room, the man has to deliver it. If she wants a garden, the man has to do all the heavy tasks and maintenance of the big garden. If she wants to go to the other side of the country, the man has to plan the trip and bring the woman to the destination. Most of the time, I see men driving women wherever they want.
Children?
From my observation, it is not the children who were responsible for the additional work provided by a man in a relationship. The mainstream media, the comedians, the movies make you believe that raising children is related to additional household workload. This is not what I saw. I saw that in many cases, men workload was linked to wife/gf decisions.