Many men in their 20s and 30s are curious about dating women in their 40s. In this article, I will discuss some of the potential issues related to dating women in this age range if you look for a serious relationship.
Children – A major problem
A man who has never had children and wants to have them in the future may face challenges if he chooses to date a woman over 40. In the early 40s, women have a 34% chance of getting a miscarriage. (reference)
After age 35 (not just 40), women who want to become mothers are at an increased risk of…
- Gestational diabetes
- High blood pressure
- Preeclampsia
- Premature labor and birth
- Cesarean delivery
A 40-year-old woman has a 5 percent chance of conceiving each month
The chances of a woman aged 45 conceiving naturally every month are very low, estimated to be less than 5%. This is due to the decline in both the quality and quantity of eggs as women age, which makes it more difficult to conceive and increases the risk of miscarriage and chromosomal abnormalities. Fertility treatments such as in vitro fertilization (IVF) may increase the chances of conception, but success rates are still relatively low for women in their mid-40s. It’s important to discuss fertility options with a healthcare provider if trying to conceive at this age.
Conversely, at 40, 50 or 60 years old, a man has always the option to father a child with a woman aged between 20 and 35 years old. In Europe, There are only 3-8% of the whole male population who aren’t fertile.
The single mom problem
A 40+ woman may already have children from a previous relationship. If you decide to commit to her, you may become a stepfather to children who are not biologically yours. This can potentially lead to difficult situations, especially if the child misbehaves. As a stepfather, you may not have the same level of authority as the biological parent, and the mother can remind you of this at any time. This type of issue can arise at any point in the child’s life, whether they are 8, 13, or 18 years old.
Furthermore, if the biological father has different views on education than the stepfather, this can create tension when the child visits their mother who lives with the stepfather. As a stepfather, you may find yourself in a challenging situation if your stepchild does not behave as you would like, especially if they are also being influenced by their other parent. While the relationship may start off well, it’s important to be aware of the potential challenges that may arise in the future.
Pressure on men?
The responsibility to commit to someone should fall more on women than men due to the biological reality of the female reproductive system and the limited window of time for childbearing.
Conclusion
It is more advantageous for men to date younger women rather than women who are older or the same age as them when they are in their 40s. Women who were picky or passive with men in their 20s and 30s may face consequences later in life. Women’s physical attractiveness is typically only present for a short period of time, and they should be aware of this by observing their mothers and grandmothers. It is also important to remind women that they age faster than men and that their biological clock is ticking. Therefore, the pressure to commit should be on women more than men due to these factors.