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How to date a woman in a lounge bar?

barloungeFirst of all, arrive early when there are nobody and no competitors. Choose an isolated seat. The best places are those where you can get intimacy thanks to the seat configuration in the room. The seat configuration is very helpful. The more the place is intimate and the more you are likely to succeed. Before she arrives, that would be clever to already order a glass of her favorite alcoholic beverage in order not to lose time. Each minute is important in the process of picking up a woman. Consequently, if drinks are ready when she arrives, you save time. For sure, you have to know her favorite alcoholic beverage.

By the past, I had dates where things went so slow during the night so that I did not succeed to do anything as it was too late when it was the time to do something.

For instance, it useful to order one bottle of white wine beforehand. In some countries, bars are « hijacked » by 100 people at the same time on Friday and Saturday evenings, and there are three lines of people behind the bar. So, you must do everything in your power to stay with her and limit all moves.

The critical step:

At one point you have to convince a woman to go for a one night stand. Never expect her to do the first step. After 15 years of dating experience, I had hundreds of dates from all nationalities. I have never met any interesting women who did the first step. To my opinion, the pro-active woman profile is an urban legend and is only found on TV shows and Hollywood movies. If you feel your date is ready, be straight-forward. If you know she lives close to the place, consider the woman will prefer to be at her accommodation.

Just be courteous: “ (her first name), I want to make love to you.” But I got to tell you something; it is just the starting point of the critical step. At this stage, the woman will understand what you want, but it does not mean she will follow you right away. The critical step may be a 15 minutes negotiation. At the beginning of the 15 minutes, you tell the sentence. Afterward, you got to stay there close to the woman, touch her, caress her, take her hand. Like a machine gun, you have to continuously tell her simple words. She is cute, sweet, nice. Repeat the sentence: “Come with me, Let’s go.” Only keep

Afterward, you got to stay there close to the woman, touch her, caress her, take her hand. Like a machine gun, you have to continuously tell her simple words. She is cute, sweet, nice. Repeat again the sentence: “Come with me, Let’s go”. Only keep this leitmotiv all the time for 15 to 20 minutes. If nothing happens after 10 minutes, you can try to be pushier. Tell her: “I want to make love to you, come with me now”. She may answer that you are straightforward but no worries about it. In fact, if the conditions allow it, I do advise you to tell her that you want to have sex with her.

After 15 minutes, if she always says no, there is nothing to do, you will never convince her to have sex. By the way, I don’t recommend to sleeping with women who are not motivated. If a woman is asexual, it is time to leave and never see her again.

At that point, you need to have a plan in mind and go as fast as possible. Either you will go to her place or to your place. You need to know before you go. Then, you should go back as fast as possible.